Never say it.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

When I was pregnant with Jack (who was known as Cheeseburger at the time), a colleague gave us this advice:

Never say the words "I can't wait until..."

We all do it.

"Oh, this is great, but I can't wait until he's crawling/walking/talking/potty trained/not obsessed with sticking his fingers in the dogs' eyes, etc."

What we're really doing, though, is wishing time away.

"Let's hurry up and get to the next thing.  This is cool, but I am impatient."

That colleague had lost their beloved child.  They showed incredible grace and strength by being excited for and supportive of us, despite their loss.  They gave us that advice because their own experience had put it in harsh relief.

We made a pact to never use those words.  And we do not.



And you know what?  Every second is a joy when you think that way.

Talk soon,
Heather

4 comments:

  1. That is so true! The other thing I learned is that quality time is more important than the quantity of time. So even when we can only spend a few minutes at the park after work/daycare, I let my boy take the lead, and explore what he wants to explore - even if that's watching the trains go by 20 times. It's fun to see things through his eyes, and see what things I take for granted he's actually fascinated by.

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  2. Dude. You're killing me today. Amazing. So right.

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Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Never say it.

When I was pregnant with Jack (who was known as Cheeseburger at the time), a colleague gave us this advice:

Never say the words "I can't wait until..."

We all do it.

"Oh, this is great, but I can't wait until he's crawling/walking/talking/potty trained/not obsessed with sticking his fingers in the dogs' eyes, etc."

What we're really doing, though, is wishing time away.

"Let's hurry up and get to the next thing.  This is cool, but I am impatient."

That colleague had lost their beloved child.  They showed incredible grace and strength by being excited for and supportive of us, despite their loss.  They gave us that advice because their own experience had put it in harsh relief.

We made a pact to never use those words.  And we do not.



And you know what?  Every second is a joy when you think that way.

Talk soon,
Heather
 
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